Motherhood isn’t a straight road — it’s a journey of learning, unlearning, and rediscovering who you are at every stage. We sat down with Mansi Rajani (@mansirajani85), who grew up in Aligarh and now calls Noida home. She is a creator and mom of two energetic boys! Here is what she has to say about raising kind humans, navigating mom guilt, and finding herself in the middle of it all. Her honesty, warmth, and perspective are exactly the kind of reminder every mom needs.
1. How would you describe who you were before becoming a mom, and who you’ve grown into today?
Before motherhood, I was a smart housewife figuring out life at my own pace. Today, I’ve grown into a creator who shares her journey with her beautiful Instagram family every single day.
2.Raising boys comes with its own expectations and unspoken pressures. How do you navigate the responsibility of shaping them into kind, respectful, emotionally aware men for tomorrow’s world?
Honestly, raising boys is a big responsibility. Everyday, I teach them that strength lies in manners and not just muscles. I try to raise them with kindness, respect and lots of emotional honesty, so they grow up knowing that being a good human is the biggest superpower.
3. Boys often have boundless energy and strong personalities. How do you find your balance between letting them be free and guiding them with gentle boundaries?
It’s true. Boys have endless energy. My balance is simple - I let them be their wild, happy selves, but with gentle rules that keep them grounded. Freedom and guidance with so much love and care.
4. Every child needs something different from their mom. How do you manage two kids who need completely different things from you at the same time?
Two kids, two personalities, and both so different. One needs calm, the other needs comfort. So I keep switching between soft, patient, playful, whatever the moment asks for. Motherhood isn't a perfect balance but pure intention.
5. Mom guilt hits differently when there are two kids tugging at you. What are the moments or situations where you feel it most — and what helps you let go of it?
I feel the most mom guilt when I can’t be emotionally available for both at the same time. When one needs comfort and the other needs attention and I can’t give both fully. I try to let go of it by reminding myself that I’m teaching them patience, sharing, and real-life balance.
6. Between your work, home responsibilities, and your role as a mom, what part of “balancing it all” feels the hardest, and how do you protect your own sense of self in the middle of it?
Balancing it all gets toughest when everything needs me at the same time — work deadlines, home duties, kids’ needs. That’s when I feel stretched thin. To protect my sense of self, I remind myself that it’s okay to slow down and to choose myself sometimes.
7. In the rush of routines — school, meals, work, bedtime — what are the small everyday rituals that help you feel connected to each of your boys individually? Our days are full and noisy but our prayer time is the one quiet ritual that keeps me close to each of them. In that moment, there are no roles, no rush — just faith, peace, and togetherness.
8. Many moms worry about raising emotionally strong kids. How do you teach them things like empathy, respect, kindness, and the importance of expressing their feelings?
Everyday conversations are my way of teaching them empathy and respect. If they hurt someone, we talk about how the other person might have felt. If they’re upset, we talk about why.Small moments like these shape emotionally strong kids.
9. If you could send a message to other moms raising children today, especially those feeling the pressure to “do everything right,” what would you want them to hear from you?
I only want to say to every mom who feels she has to do everything right, please breathe. Kids don’t need a perfect mom; they need a present one. Your love is already doing more than you realise, so chill.
Mansi’s journey is a reminder that motherhood doesn’t come with manuals — only moments, choices, and a heart that keeps learning alongside your children. Her words reflect the real, imperfect, beautiful side of raising little humans while rediscovering your own strength.
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